Women and society’s double-standards

What comes to your head if you see a girl/woman wearing this:

Or possibly working as a Hooters Girl:

Would you think she’s cheap? Asking for it? A whore, perhaps? Or would you say to yourself, ‘Good for her, for standing up for her choice’?

The majority of you would have probably raised your eyebrows upon reading the sentence before this. Whether we like to admit it or not, we still live in a patriarchal society wherein the choices and rights of women are rather limited. We are a product of our past. With this comes the idea that women are lower than men, and should be judged based on what men think are right and wrong.

Imagine this scenario: a girl wearing skimpy clothes (like the Hooters girls pictured above) walking late at night, and was raped. The rapist argues that if she weren’t wearing those clothes, he probably wouldn’t have noticed her, and hence wouldn’t rape her. More often than not, the authorities would take the view of the rapist, and say that the girl was providing an invitation to anyone to rape her, or  at least attract unwanted attention. My question is, why does our society condone men’s animalistic sexual behaviours whilst suppressing those of females? It seems like it is accepted for a guy to ‘wolf-whistle’ at any girl he finds attractive, or for him to shout unwanted sexual remarks at a woman wearing tight clothes, simply because ‘she asked for it!‘.  Most of us find it too easy to just shrug off and frown at these male acts. We reason that it’s just ‘men being men’. However, should a girl do such things as ‘wollf-whistle’ at a guy or shout sexual remarks, or even casually verbalise attraction, she would be deemed a bad girl, and a ‘no no’. Women should  never do those things because it is widely accpeted that men are sexual aggressors, and would jump at any opportunity for a sexual encounter. How’s that for double-standards?

These standards are being reinforced since adolescence where it is acceptable for young boys to explore their sexuality through watching pornographic videos, masturbation and countless sexual encounters. Add to this the fact that when a boy dumps his girlfriend because he found a new one, he is greeted with high-fives and loud hoorahs by his peers. The picture is totally different for young girls. They are taught from a very young age that sex is bad, let alone pornography and masturbation. They are taught to suppress their inner desires if they want to be treated with respect. A girl is a slut, a whore, a bitch, if she ever express her sexual desires, in any way or form. Why? Why the double standard?

If we are to condemn girls for being promiscuous, why don’t we do the same for boys? If we are to let the boys explore their sexuality freely, why don’t we let girls do the same? If we let people assume that girls wearing skimpy clothes asks for sex, we are limiting female choice and just reinforcing the false belief that males are the higher and dominant force in society . We should start making men more responsible for controlling their sexual urges and actions. Women shouldn’t watch what they say, wear and do just to accomodate men’s immature and irrational views of the world. It’s time for change, people. It’s time for us to change.

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6 thoughts on “Women and society’s double-standards”

  1. I don’t have any easy answers for all this, but I do know that as physical human beings we have a natural drive to want sex, to masturbate, and to look at nude pictures. Biology shows us that testosterone in young males is responsible for much of their fixation on these things, while most girls, who in general acquire sexual interests much later, are more interested as teens in companionship, kissing, romance, etc. As a young girl, I wasn’t interested in sex, though I did love having a boyfriend and kissing and such. Yes, there is a double standard about how we expect boys and girls to act toward sex, and it would be nice to have both male and female responses acknowledged. Still, girls are the ones who get pregnant, and inevitably, it’s the girls who have the final responsibility in making sure they use contraception–because too many guys are not responsible about it and they rarely end up having to deal with the the consequences. So…basically, there are biological and social reasons why the double standard exists for teens. Now…for adults, that’s a different matter.

    1. I completely agree to everything that you have said. Many a times, it is girls who end up paying the price for guys’ irresponsibility. But both the girl and the boy should be held responsible for contraception. I understand that boys can easily walk away and disappear from the girl and his potential kid, but girls have the option of abortion if she doesn’t really want to have a child. I am aware of studies that support the view that boys start to be interested in sex earlier than girls. What I am pointing at is the way (most of) girls, whilst growing up, is exposed to the ‘good girls don’t think of sex’ idea. Also, why does society seem to accept the ‘hump and dump’ attitude of boys, and condemn girls who do the same?

  2. Look, I don’t think there are many people blaming the victim in rape cases. The rapist is the only guilty party in these crimes. But people will sometimes point out that wearing certain clothes in certain places increases the risk of being a victim. That’s not the same thing. If I have a friend with an expensive care, I may advise him not to park it in a bad neighborhood because there are some places where nice cars are more likely to be stolen or vandalized. Yes, he SHOULD be able to park the car wherever he pleases, but the reality is some places are riskier than other. But when he gets his car stolen, I don’t blame him; I blame the thief. The same with the “authorities” you cite above. The police may feel it was a bad choice to leave a Porche in a ghetto, but that doesn’t mean they “blame” the victim.

  3. Thanks for the article. As far as I’m concerned, though, some societies seem to be more liberal and civilised than what you described. May I ask which city/country are you referring to, if you don’t mind?

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